Some people drive through life angry
They seem to wake up and are just angry from the outset. Nothing seems to make them happy. They get into their car and just drive angry. Beeping their horn at every opportunity, cutting people up, undertaking and overtaking, often over the speed limit, impatient.
When they get out of their vehicle they remain in the same mood, pushing against the crowd, slamming doors, impolite, angry at life.
It can’t be doing their mental health any good. The constant anger at the world, at life. It must cause indigestion, unease, stress, anxiety, even depression. Never seeming happy. Always rushing to the next thing, to work, to home, to sleep.
We only have one life so enjoy it. Take a leaf out of Ferris’ book and stop and look around once in a while. It’s not all bad. Don’t drive through your life angry.
Tag: stress
When things don’t go to plan
When things don’t go to plan.
When a spanner is thrown into the works.
When people let you down.
When it’s one of those days.
When the brown stuff hits the fan.
It’s easy to become depressed, trigger anxiety, and become stressed out. It’s a natural reaction. Yet the more you feed that particular reaction the stronger it will get. The trick is to grow thicker skin. What doesn’t kill you and all that.
Life is complicated. Plus the more technically advanced we become as a species the more complex the problems will get. The more big things you own like cars, houses, and businesses, the more problems you are likely to face. Renting properties? You have to deal with lettings agents, tenants, and contractors. Own a business? There are customers, suppliers, employees, lawyers, accountants, and so on. You get the picture. The more you take on in life the more opportunities there are for problems to occur.
When life knocks you down the trick is to get back up, brush yourself off, and get on with it. Grow thicker skin. You will have to deal with idiots, incompetence, plain stupidity, angry people, delays, wear and tear, the economy, inflation, greed, and many more variables that shape the world that we live in.
Each day that you wake up, think that today will be a good day, but I will probably have to deal with people who are lazy and incompetent, or mean, angry, or just generally having a bad day. I may suffer losses in terms of time and money but I will survive this thing called life.
This problem that is stressing you out right now; you won’t remember it in five years time. Maybe not even in a year. So why stress about it now? Resolve it as best as you can and move on. Learn from it, grow, then let it go.
Things don’t always go to plan, so plan for them not to, and then you won’t be so stressed when the inevitable happens.
Embrace the wild rain.
Getting angry with the world
It’s so easy to get angry with the world. Everywhere you look there seems to be things going wrong. Public transport is late so you miss your appointment. Contractors not turning up to do a job you agreed and booked in advance. Products being delivered that are incorrect, damaged, or not delivered at all. Service that is sub-par and over priced. Financial organisations making errors causing you to lose out on deals, be fined for late payments, or over charging. You can’t get an in-person GP appointment. Long hospital appointment waiting lists. Your car breaks down after you drive it off the garage forecourt. Your new computer, games console, TV, cooker, breaks down after only a few days or weeks of use, and getting the seller or manufacturer to rectify the problem proves tricky. It’s like you need a degree in consumer law! Just reaching a human to air your grievance to appears to be a challenge.
All this can weigh you down and you end up carrying so much anger inside of you. Trust me, it’s not worth it. It will only cause you stress and further health problems. Just let it go.
Obviously I’m not saying forget the issues that are causing you to be frustrated. I’m just saying let the worry, annoyance, and stress go. Go make a cup of coffee or tea and take a time out. Meditate, relax, read a book. Then, when calm, consider your options. How urgent is the problem? How best to approach it? There’s no such thing as fast great service anymore, so be prepared for a resolution to take some time and be ok with that. Learn to have backups and to factor them into future planning.
It will take time and practice but you’ll get there.
There’s no sense in getting angry with the world. Instead be at peace with it. We all live in this world with all the challenges that modern civilization brings. Learn to guide yourself through the wild rain of life. Build a better umbrella.